Great Life Transforming Books to Begin The New Year!

As we live the Christian life seeking to live the abundant life is  a desire we all have.  Several years ago I became exhausted with regularly feeling like I just could not live like the Bible was calling me to.  And I was right.  I finally  discovered how my only hope was Christ in me the hope of glory.  Once I started allowing  (through my own choice and daily invitation) Christ  to live His life through me I began to live a life of true freedom, joy and peace in Jesus!

Today, I want to share with you some life transforming books that made a difference in my life.  Jesus is coming soon, and when He comes He will have a people that will be reflecting His life and character to a the world.  It can happen!  He is faithful who has promised!

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May God bless you as you journey in this adventure of the Christian life.

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The righteousness of Christ…When God’s people truly take hold of this encouraging and hopeful message, it will lead to genuine revival and reformation. This book is a series of 32 sermons presented by J.W. “Bill” Lehman on the topic of Christ our righteousness. Through these messages, Pastor Lehman sets a solid foundation for Christ our righteousness, comparing popular teachings on the subject with what the word of God tell us. Once this message is truly accepted by His people, God will pour out His Spirit and enable us to proclaim the Loud Cry of the Third Angel.

God’s Love Affair with the Guilty suggested donation of only $15 (Includes S&H in the U.S. only)


Guilt is something that all people experience and can produce a heavy burden to bear. The Law of God, if simply viewed as a set of rules that condemn us in the judgement, can leave a person devastated under their burden. We can only remain on a continuous guilt trip if we do not understand that Christ has already taken our sins and guilt upon Himself when He died on the cross. God’s Love Affair With The Guilty reveals to those bearing a heavy burden of guilt a loving Savior who knew the fallen condition of mankind before He came to this earth to lay down His life as a ransom for guilty sinners. God’s grace is greater than all our sins.

God’s Last Message: Christ Our Righteousness by Steve Wohlberg 14.00 (Includes S&H in the U.S.)


In this dynamic book Steve share his findings after about 10 years of study of the truth of Righteousness by faith and how truly it is God’s last message to dying world. You will also discover how to experience the righteousness of Christ in you life

God’s Compelling Love suggested Donation 12 (includes S&H in the U.S.)

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This is a very practical bible study on how to experience the love of God in you life and then how to be a conduit of His grace in the life of others.

Fatherhood: Reclaiming Your God-given Role. Suggested Donation $15.00 (includes S&H in the U.S.)

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This book is a very practical approach for men who desire to be the man, father and husband God has called them to be.

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 “Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful, and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”  – Luke 10:41,42.

Are you busy?   Are you busy in the things that you believe matter most?  Martha was. And just like Martha, we become so busy in what we think are the most important things that need to be accomplished that we forget the most important thing – Jesus!

Life can be so filled with activities such as work, business appointments, personal appointments, church, the kids, my personal church project, time on the internet, etc., that in trying to get things all done our walk with the Master slowly becomes distant and erodes.  We begin to feel it on the inside but just can’t seem to help ourselves stop being so busy!

What keeps us so busy in the things that don’t matter most as compared to Christ? Well, I believe, it is self.   Self can be at the center of what we do and as we try to fill self, with self, it just doesn’t work.  The problem is that as we continue to fill self with self the loneliness and pain does not get better.  Yet we try to medicate the pain with more and more of . . .  filling ourselves with self.  Oh, when will this end?

Jesus shared with Martha how this viscous cycle of busyness can come to an end.  Isn’t it funny, when we are full of ourselves just like Martha we are quick to point the finger that someone else is not doing what we feel they are suppose to be doing.  It only reveals that we need more of Jesus! And that is the wonderful counsel that Jesus had for Martha, and has for us today.

Today, Jesus is trying to tell us to take the time today to invest in the one thing that is most needful – Him!  Begin today to make Him your priority number one.  As we do, the void in our hearts will disappear, and our problems will begin to have the answers that will really solve our problems.

Jesus said,  “I am The Way, The Truth and The Life,”  (John 14:6),  “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all things these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33),  and “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28).  

Are you busy? Are you tired?  Are your wheels just spinning and spinning?  Are you thirsting for something more?  Is your complaining and critical spirit growing as a result?. . .  Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,  but one thing is needful, Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.  Choose Jesus, Choose life!  Begin today to prioritize your life and take the time needed to sit at the feet of Jesus and let Him finally lead the way in your experience.  As you do, you will be choosing the good portion that will never fade away and that no one can take away from you for it will be so precious and dear to your heart!   Begin that journey today and finally enjoy the peace that only He can give.

Until next time, God bless, and may I encourage you to keep your eyes on Him!


A Great Place to Start in the New Year

In the Bible we find these most humbling words of Christ: “If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.” (Luke 9:23) Denying self can be a very challenging task.

The challenge comes as for our innate desire is not to deny self but to make sure that we minimize our risks while we maximize our benefits. When missionary Dr. David Livingstone was working in Africa, a group of friends wrote him: “We would like to send other men to you. Have you found a good road into your area yet?” Dr. Livingstone sent this message in reply: “If you have men who will only come if they know there is a good road, I don’t want them. I want men who will come if there is no road at all.”

There’s a big difference between just being interested in doing something and actually making a commitment to doing it! Just being interested allows us the freedom do a thing only when our circumstances permit. However, making a commitment to do that thing means accepting no excuses and no reservations. It means putting aside our fears and reservations moving forward till we see the end result! Dr. Livingstone was looking for results, and this required persons of commitment!

As the New Year gets underway, let us reevaluate our commitments. Let us consider the words of Jesus that we must deny self and go, as well as do things, that although may be uncomfortable will make for a better world and a show of our dedication to a higher calling and an eternal destiny. So as we begin the New Year, let us commence with the commitment take up our cross and follow Christ no matter what the cost!

With 2015 under way, let us examine our lives and place our commitments with our Lord, our families, jobs and out community that will take us out of our comfort zone and into the denying of self zone. It may make us uncomfortable but the blessing and benefits will be out of this world!


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The Storms of Life: An Opportunity for Something Great!

Storms can be an exciting wonder at the same time they can be quite intimidating and cause for concern. I am always amazed how close storm chasers get to those storms and get them on video. However, for me, I wouldn’t and dare not get that close. My son Joel loves them and is a storm chaser in his own right. My son Micah is growing to be the same way; but me, I am on the other spectrum. Maybe that is why God has given me those two boys! In order for me to learn how to accept, as well as grow through the storms of life. They say we can learn something from every one.

In the book of Matthew chapter 14, Jesus had just finished addressing the “stormy” need for food by feeding five thousand with five (5) loves of bread and two (2) fish. He then goes up to a mountain to pray and send his disciples across the sea and into a storm! That’s right, when you read the account where Jesus sends them a storm swiftly comes upon them and this storm is so tumultuous that the disciples are at sea crying for help wondering if they are going to live through this one. Things then take a sudden change.

Jesus comes to them in the midst of their storm and lets them know that all will be well. In their cry Jesus comes and more than that He calls one of them (Peter) to Him and Peter keeping his eyes steadfast upon the savior does the miraculous in the midst of the storm: Peter walks on water holding the Savior’s hand.

You know, life is just like this experience. God, allows storms to come into our lives in order that we may learn and know that He will come to us, as we cry out to Him, and not only calm the “sea” of our troubles but also help us rise to the occasion and walk through the difficulty in a very miraculously wonderful way.

However sometimes like Peter, when trouble strikes, we forget our knowledge of God too. We struggle to recall past answers to prayer, specific guidance provided by the Holy Spirit, and lessons learned in previous crises. Only the present seems real. Our minds spin with future implications, and our troubled emotions inhibit clear thinking. Then suddenly we remember God, prompted by His Spirit of course and once again remember who it is that can help us get up again after we have sunken in despair because we have allowed circumstances to get our eyes off of Him!

In our own strength, we lack sufficient resources and abilities to meet life’s challenges. So God provides what we need. Our suffering is never a surprise to the Lord. He knows everything we are going through. More than that, He’s orchestrating our circumstances for His glory and our benefit, according to His good will. We must remember that.
Reflecting on the divine purpose in hardship can help us respond to trials in a God-honoring way. Let’s take a moment to fix our attention on the Lord and seek to understand the lessons He wants us to learn through life’s dark moments.

No one enjoys suffering. But in the hands of almighty God, trials become tools. He uses hardship to shape believers into the people He intends them to be. Jesus allowed the disciples to experience the fear and anxiety of being in a boat on a raging sea. He permitted them to suffer because He had something far more important to teach them. He wanted the disciples to recognize their own helplessness, His sufficiency, and their dependence on Him. He asked Peter to come to Him in order that Peter exercise faith in Him. And so it is with us. In the midst of our troubles He calls us to come to Him in order that we exercise our faith in Him and as a result experience His sweet deliverance. We must keep our eyes fixed on Him! When we do, it gives God the open door to help us to have the opportunity to experience something great!

David Guerrero, Speaker/Director Rekindle the Flame Ministries
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Finishing The Race

The Christian life can be compared to a race. The New Testament draws a parallel from this metaphor, as to the endurance required of believers. (Mat 13:18-23) If we would partake of the prize set before us, we must remember the words of Jesus that “He that shall endure unto the end” get the greatest prize of all (Mat 24:13; 10:22; Mark 13:13).

In any contest, the important factor is not how many begin the competition but who finishes the race and completes the course, who wins the prize. Late in life, Paul declared, “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith. Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness …” (2 Thes 4:7, 8). Scripture says we are to “run with patience (endurance, persistence) the race set before us, looking unto Jesus the Author and Finisher of our faith … For consider Him that endured … lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.” (Heb 12:1-3)

Becoming Weary Often times we become so weary or may I say tired with what life’s circumstances. We then lose patience, endurance and persistence to keep on keeping on and our vision becomes skewed and we stop looking at the bigger picture. This September My son and I ran a half marathon for the first time in our lives. I was running well until I reached the 10th mile. It was at that time that I felt like giving up running and ending the race. However, something happened in my mind that kept me going-the resolve to finish the race! You see, keeping my eyes on the finished line and not on the immediate pain in my legs kept me going. This is a lesson that we can apply to life: when we become weary with life or life’s circumstances we need to look at the bigger picture-the finish line! As Christians we need to look at Jesus the Author and Finisher of our faith for He has all the resources to help reach His desired destination for us—Heaven.

The Bigger Picture

Many focus on the initial speed of their progress, but overlook one far greater factor of successful athletic competition: consistency. We may start out in the front lines, leading, but if our progress is not consistent — if we become entangled with the affairs of this life (2 Tim 2:4; Gal 5:1) — we will fall back as we weary with the stress of the race.

The bigger picture in it all, is to realize that our lives in eternity are being affected now by the many choices we make daily. We need to daily make the choices that will build usup and lead us in a direction of well being, healthy thinking, healthy relationships, and “peaceful living.” We need to keep our minds in the right place. The Apostle Paul Explained it this way: seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right
hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. Seek, set and hide. These three words are key ingredients into how we can keep our eyes on the bigger picture. By Seeking God’s will in all things, setting our minds on His word, His will and His presence, and realizing that my life is entrusted to Christ as well as that I can trust Him for the outcome that will be to His glory, can assist me in looking at my life and my circumstances through the lens of God. Doing this will allow me to have a much improved attitude and perspective. Someone once said “attitude is like a flat tire, you will not be able to go anywhere until you change it.” This is so true!Seeking the things that are above, setting my mind on God’s agenda and hiding my life behind His truly can aid me to live life from a very positive perspective.

Finishing the Race

You see, the race is not given to the swift but the person that will endure until the end (Eccl. 9:11). In order to finish the race of life well, we need that endurance that can only come from above. We cannot afford to become entangled with the affairs or bad attitudes of this life, for if we do, we will fall back as we weary with the stress of the race. We must choose to set our minds on the things above as we seek the things above. We must daily hide ourselves behind our great protector-Jesus Christ. With His help we can see life through His eyes and live it in His strength.

Our lives in eternity are being affected now by the many choices we make daily. “Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompense of reward. For ye have need of patience (endurance), that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.” (Heb 10:35-36). May the outcome of our daily choices be such that we experience the blessing of His promises. My prayer is that we will all finish the race!

God will Deliver!

And it happened at the end of the four hundred and thirty years, even it was on this very day, all the armies of Jehovah went out from the land of Egypt.

Exodus 12:41 NKJV

It took ten (10) plagues in Egypt to finally arrive at the place of deliverance for the Children of Israel. God had predicted that He would deliver His people, but told Moses that it would not happen without much resistance from Pharaoh ( see Gen 15:13 & Exodus 3-9). Not only was it hard to convince Pharaoh, it was equally difficult to persuade the children of Israel; who even questioned Moses sanity and his coming as a deliver for God’s people (Exodus 5:21). Deliverance seems never to come without its challenges.

As we examine today’s text we discover that God saw the children of Israel as an army! When I first read this I chuckled and thought “an army? You must be kidding me?” On the surface Israel appeared to be anything but an army of God. And that is just the point that God is trying to make in this passage. When we belong to God, really belong to Him and are His Children, we belong to the Captain of the LORD of Hosts! And the very fact that we are His, places us in a position for sure victory! You see God does not see as we see things, His vision is one that far surpasses what we can see. Where we may see utter hopelessness and defeat, God sees triumph and victory. So how do we get there? How do we view things how God sees them – faith! A faith that results and responds in obedience to what God can do and follows through with what God tells us what to do. This is what will lead to victory!

You see, it wasn’t until the night of the Passover in Exodus chapter twelve (12) that sure deliverance took place. On that night the Children of Israel had to follow the LORD’s prescribed plan in order to experience the salvation and deliverance of the LORD. So it is today, our sure deliverance hinges upon our following God’s plan for our personal exodus and we must to do this by faith! For, “this is the victory that overcomes the world, our faith.” (I John 5:4 ESV). How’s your faith this morning? Our faith in God, His plan and faithfully obeying His word, will result in a sure deliverance. It did for the children of Israel:

“And on that same day the LORD brought out the sons of Israel out of the land of Egypt by their hosts.” Exodus 12:51

It can happen for you today as well! God will deliver!

David Guerrero is a life, marriage and health and wellness coach. He as also the speaker/director for Rekindle the Flame Ministries. If you like to invite David and the RTFM team to speak or do a retreat or event for you, contact us at (715) 310-2196 or email us Also visit our website at

What Do You Have Your EYE On?

What do you have your eye on? That is what God asked me this morning as I was reading His word. I was reading Matthew 6: 21- 24 which says:

Matt 6:21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Mat 6:22 “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light,
Mat 6:23 but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!
Mat 6:24 “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

You see Yahweh was sharing with me that it is where I set my eyes that determines the depth of my spirituality. Do I have my eyes set on the things of this world or do I have them COMPLETELY set on Him. In my life do I set my eyes on doing His word, doing what is right, or do I set my eyes on having my own way and doing things the way I feel or think is best. If I set my eyes on Him, His word, and His way, my whole life will be filled with true light! If I choose otherwise then, my life will be filled with darkness. It is simply my choice. I must choose. Well, my prayers is that daily I will live by what the Apostle Paul declared in Ephesians 5:14:

Awake you who sleep, and arise from the dead, and Christ will give you light.

May we wake up from the slumber of this life and arise to new life, as Christ then pours the beauty of his Holiness and Presence in to our heats and lives is my prayer!

May you have a great day in Him!

David Guerrero, Speaker/Director Rekindle the Flame Ministries

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SHARPening Your Marriage

At the start of our marriage, our vision for marital success was limited by our pursuit of selfish desires.  We often bring our own “baggage” into the marriage covenant, but remembering that marriage is a covenant that we make with God is key to growing as a Christian and as spouse.  Once we realized that our spouse was not created for our own pleasures, and that marriage was more about giving than getting, we started to grope around for help to repair our twisted dreams.  We started ingesting volumes of materials on marriage until we felt like self-help junkies.  Applying all that material became a real challenge, so we began to forget what we had read and then resorted to the flawed reflex responses that were programmed within us from our separate dysfunctional childhoods.

Realizing that we were getting nowhere, we cried out to God to help us make lasting changes in our marriage relationship.  God helped us organize what we had learned and through the help of the Holy Spirit, we were able to recall needed techniques in a crisis.  God has used every trial and success to give us stepping-stones to a higher marital experience and to make our marriage SHARP.  Although it is not all-inclusive, this acronym has served as a quick reference to check the barometer of our marriage.

Sweet communication is needed to keep love alive at home.  If our words are harsh, critical, demeaning or full of gossip, they will wound a person to the point of creating barriers between the couple that are difficult to remove.  Negative words also create a negative atmosphere in the home making it less of a place where angels love to dwell.  Words of affirmation, encouragement, inspiration and words that seek to build your relationship and spouse, make for openness and love to be experienced.  Death and life are in the power of the tongue(1) so we need to carefully consider how we speak to one another.

Humor is indispensable and can turn moments of frustration and deep challenges into fun learning experiences and profound oneness.  Early in our marriage, a lost set of keys could turn into a nightmare of accusations and blame.  One Saturday morning when David could not find his belt for his dress pants, he stormed about using accusatory words in an attempt to have others assist him on his seek and find mission.  In the midst of a tense moment, our two-year-old son wisely asked, “Daddy shouldn’t you pray and ask God to help you?”  Convicted at this moment, the grown man smiled and said, “Yes, son, you are right and I am sorry for the way that I have behaved.  Let’s pray and ask Jesus to help us.”  As soon as Dad and son got of their knees, the belt was found, to which our son joyfully exclaimed, “Hallelujah, now we can go to church!”  At that moment, we all laughed.  Since that incident, we have learned to smile, laugh and allow God to be the keeper of our attitudes.

Acts of kindness on a regular basis keeps a marriage thriving.  Daily as we seek to give of ourselves to show that our spouse is special to us nurtures a loving environment.  Doing a chore for your spouse while maintaining a cheerful disposition, paying attention to their day and just jumping in and helping out where needed are actions that breed romance, deep appreciation and unity.            

Repentance is paramount in preventing cold, distant communication and can even repair marital brokenness.  We will all make mistakes, but being able to acknowledge your wrong, confessing the misdeed and then developing a plan as a couple to keep the error from recurring, while simultaneously working on a plan to grow from the mistakes, can add significant depth to a Godly relationship.

Prayer and Praise round off the ingredients that have kept our marriage invigorated.  Daily holding hands and praying together (praying for and with your spouse) has been one of the richest experiences in our marriage.  As the saying goes, you can’t remain at odds with each other when you are regularly praying for one another.  In addition to prayer, the continual praise and thanksgiving to God for what He has done(2) has been monumental for our growth as we have allowed praise to God to overflow onto our spouse with praises for them instead of complaining.

Overall, in order to keep your marriage sharp and achieve true marital success you must practice the presence of Christ to guide you on this journey.  Our marriage is far from perfect, but if we keep our hands in God’s hands, we will stay on the right path.

Pastor David and Jacquelyn Guerrero are co-founders of Rekindle the Flame Ministries and reside in Central Wisconsin with their four children.

(1)    Proverbs 18:21

(2)    1 Thess. 5:18

The Beauty of Being Content

Philip Parham tells the story of a rich industrialist who was disturbed to find a fisherman sitting lazily beside his boat. “Why aren’t you out there fishing?” he asked.

“Because I’ve caught enough fish for today,” said the fisherman.
“Why don’t you catch more fish than you need?’ the rich man asked.
“What would I do with them?”

“You could earn more money,” came the impatient reply, “and buy a better boat so you could go deeper and catch more fish. You could purchase nylon nets, catch even more fish, and make more money. Soon you’d have a fleet of boats and be rich like me.”

The fisherman asked, “Then what would I do?”
“You could sit down and enjoy life,” said the industrialist.
“What do you think I’m doing now?” the fisherman replied as he looked placidly out to sea.

Being content with our present situation isn’t always easy.  It is too tempting to look across “the street” and say “hey, wouldn’t it be nice if I could have a life just like_______?”

At other times we look at our circumstance (whatever it may be) and wish that our circumstance could be better.  Now there is nothing wrong with improving one’s present situation but it is quite another to allow it to consumes us, that it paralyzes us and keeps us from making the best of a present situation or even the best of life.

Contentment is choosing to be happy with things as they are.  It is freedom from the folly and frustration of unsatisfied desire.  Contentment comes, not because the circumstances of our lives are “ideal,” but because they are as God, in His love and wisdom, allows them to be at the moment (Philippians 4:11).)

In order to be truly content we have to come to the point in our lives where we surrender our will and our circumstance to God allowing His sovereignty to have full sway in our lives.  How do we do this?  Let me share with you five principles that I have learned and that have worked for myself and others.

First of all we must, establish a reasonable standard of living. Since there is no universal plan that is suitable for everyone, this must be a standard established among yourself or if you are married and have a family, a husband, wife, and God.  It is good to sit down analyze what you have coming in financially, the possessions you have, what you would like to have in the future etc.,  and determine how you will live in relationship to these things.


Secondly, you must establish a habit of giving. Christians need to be involved with the blessing of doing what they can to meet the needs of others.  Being a giver i.e. having a generous spirit helps keeps the mind off of ourselves and onto the needs of others.  Doing so, relieves us of being self focused and may I add self centered.   Every individual and Christian family should be directly involved with some project that focuses on the needs of others or another family. There are many Christian organizations that act as a funnel for such assistance be it just plain time or monetary support. If you can’t be personally involved, this is the best alternative. “At this present time your abundance being a supply for their want, that their abundance also may become a supply for your want, that there may be equality; as it is written, ‘He who gathered much did not have too much, and he who gathered little had no  lack’ ” (2 Corinthians 8:14-15).

Thirdly we must establish priorities. Many people are discontented, not because they aren’t doing well but because others are doing better. “Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, ‘I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you’ “ (Hebrews 13:5). Too often we let the urgent things take priority over the important things.  We must always remember that God has promised to be with us.  He stands by our side waiting to be our provider.  Let us allow Him to be just that, and accept that which He provides.

Next, we need to develop a thankful attitude.  Thankfulness is a state of mind, not an accumulation of assets. Until we can truly thank God for what we have and be willing to accept that as God’s provision for our lives, contentment never will be possible.  An Attitude of gratitude is one which recognizes that although things could be better things also could be so much worse.

Two men were walking through a field one day when they spotted an enraged bull. Instantly they darted toward the nearest fence.  The storming bull followed in hot pursuit, and it was soon apparent they wouldn’t make it. 

Terrified, the one shouted to the other, “Put up a prayer, John. We’re in for it!” 

John answered, “I can’t. I’ve never made a public prayer in my life.”

“But you must!” implored his companion. “The bull is catching up to us.”

 “All right,” panted John, “I’ll say the only prayer I know, the one my father used to repeat at the table: ‘O Lord, for what we are about to receive, make us truly thankful.'”

Let us learn to be truly thankful to receive what God has specially designed for us. He always knows best.

Lastly, we should reject a fearful spirit.  Dedicated Christians get trapped into hoarding because they fear the “What if?” of retirement, disability, unemployment, or economic collapse. Obviously, God wants us to consider these things and even plan for them, within reason. When fear dictates to the point that we live in constant worry or giving to God’s work is hindered, living life foolish risks are assumed and worry becomes the norm rather than the exception. A Christian must consciously reject this attitude of fear. “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).

Psalm 68: 19 says, “Blessed be the Lord, who daily loads us with benefits, even the God of our salvation.”  Each day if we take a moment to slow down and look at our lives through the lens of God’s grace, we will come to see our blessings, count them one by one, and truly realize that the God of our salvation has loaded us with many things we can be thankful for.  It is then that we can experience the beauty of being content.


David Guerrero is the co-founder and speaker/director of Rekindle the Flame Ministries. RTFM is a non profit 501(c)3 Christian organization that seeks to aid the body of Christ in experiencing transformation of life through faith-based counseling, life coaching, seminars, conferences, training, and newsletters. Please contact us at (715) 310-2196 or on the web at for more information on how we can help you your church or your organization. Also please do contact us if you like to be on our mailing list.

Marriage Secrets

“Wives submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:21

“Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.”

I heard some of this before in a sermon and thought it was interesting enough to share.

We hear the verses mentioned above quite often. However, some tend to focus more on the SUBMIT part of the wife and less focus is put on the LOVE part of the husband. Notice that the wife is not commanded to love her husband.  You won’t find those words anywhere in the bible. Isn’t that interesting?

Yes, we are all commanded to love one another, but husbands specifically are commanded to love their wives.  So much so that if they don’t treat their wives right their prayers will be hindered!!  1 Peter  3:7   Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

But our great God knows what He is doing.  He knows it is easy to submit to someone who truly loves you – especially if they love you the way Christ loves the church. How does Christ love the church? Well, He loved us first. (1John 4:19) He sacrificed His life for us. He is compassionate and faithful. (Lamentations 3:22, 23)  And these are just a few examples of how He loves us.

The Bible also gives a great definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.  “Love is patient; love suffers long, and is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Bears all things, believes all things, it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

This love thing must be pretty serious if He had to spell it out for us like this.  In fact “love” is a major theme in the entire Bible; some would say it is the only theme in the Bible.  We are given explicit details on what love is and is not.  We find no such detailed instructions on how to submit, though.  Why is that? Is submission just intrinsic for women? Or did He just know that when loved correctly submission is quite natural?

Bottom line, God knows what He is doing and He holds marriage in high regard –Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled. Matthew 19:6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man tear apart.”

When you hear those couples who have been married for 50+ years talk about the “secret” to their marriage, you will hear them say the same exact things you find in 1 Corinthians 13.

“We never gave up.  Not even through unemployment and other trials. ” – which is “Love bears all things.”

“We didn’t go to bed angry with each other” – which is “Love is not rude or easily angered”

“We apologized to each other and forgave each other” – which is “Love keeps no record of wrongs.” (Also in 1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.)

“We listened to each other and sacrificed for each other.” – which is “Love is not self-seeking and always protects.”

“Divorce was never an option for us.” – which is “Love perseveres.” (Also In Malachi 2:16 you will find “I hate divorce,” says the Lord God.)

There are no marriage secrets – it is all explicitly laid out for us in the Bible, as so many things are.  Are we following it?

by Beatrize Valerius

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